How to feel less sad this Christmas

 Sometimes, things happen and you feel sad about it.

No doubt you know this is a part of life and that it's 'just one of those things' but how can you stop yourself from feeling so sad about it?

This Christmas, I am going through some 'empty nest' upsets. This year has changed so much this year, and I feel as though I don't even recognize myself right now. It's a very confusing time. My son won't be around the table this year for Christmas lunch and I can't help but think of it as the end of an era. Although, when he and his twin sister were little, I would lay in bed at night, with palpitations, grown from panic. What if something happened to me? How long would it be before someone knew? Would they starve? Would they be ok in dirty nappies? I used to panic so badly, that I ended up being tested for heart issues on three occasions in the emergency room. It was worry. So, I used to pray. "Please let me see them grow up." To be sad now, that he has grown up and flown the nest, seems contradictory. Instead, I will be glad of the times I do see him this Christmas, and be glad that my prayers were answered. I wish you a season of as little sadness as possible and I hope for some moments of joy for you too. 

Much love

Louise xoxo Reach out: lusherlifenutrition@gmail.com IG: www.instagram.com/lusher.life

I had another baby boy

...in last nights dream.

Which was so crazy! This baby had the usual soft skin when you held him, and the loveliest eyes. When I introduced him to my (actual) son, he held him close and I took an arty photo of the two of them to post on Facebook,
"When my two sons meet for the first time," to a shocked audience! No wonder, so would I be. My son is 20 now and my children are IVF babies, born after 9 years of fertility treatment and several miscarriages.

Why on earth would I have this dream? Well, we are currently fixing our house and I'm struggling with overwhelm. I won't deny there have been big worries about 
* my bad back
* money
* the workers
* am I up to this?
* being single
but my son sat at the end of my bed while I mopped my tears and told me it would be okay, they will all help, I will take my vitamins and he will take me on a walk before any of it starts.

Later on yesterday I posted a photo, an old one, on Instagram. I titled it:

"so proud of how far we've come in these last 21 years, just us three. They are now taking good care of me. I'm super lucky with my little family"

It's a surreal feeling to think that now I'm beginning to need some looking after too. I'm glad to have given my time to them and create these lovely humans. I have some awesome people in my life but these two youngsters are there for me every day, in every way and I love them dearly for all that they given while expecting nothing in return.

There will be no more babies, that's for sure but why try again when I got it right the first time. 

That little baby boy in the dream was such a sweetheart though, is it mad to say I miss him?

My twins grew up - am I sad?

Returning from the final destination of our 18th birthday celebrations I quietly sit and wonder what I should be feeling.  

As I Mum, I've worked so hard to raise the twins to be amazing people - and they are.  Doing this as a single mum has been a total joy.  There's nothing negative to say about it at all.  Without having my children, I definitely would not be the person I am today.
As they receive my love, freely I give more.  Easily. Willingly.   So, you might say, I'm very proud.  

Spending time together is amazing. Always we have created adventures and seen places with gasps of Wow in the air.  Most travel is accompanied by a little stress through security, passport control and long queues. This is the bit I favour the least.  After getting though the other side, coming home to a little housework which really can't straighten out the neglect that has taken away the warmth of my Home while I worked way too hard these past 4 years or so, I notice a change.

My daughters boyfriend has surprised her with a return trip similar to the one we have just returned from.  My son off to his girlfriends instantly.  They have plans to travel now too.  None of this I mind.  On the contrary.  It's a wonderful experience for them and I'm so pleased they have found their own wanderlust and independence.  A job well done.  Well done me.

My fluffy dog, in need of a haircut, makes a fuss of me and I aim to sit on the floor sorting through the suitcases.  Wondering.  What should I feel right about now?  Proud of course. Excited for them.  
An air of excitement for myself perhaps. For I can see adventure coming my way too.  When my time caring for mum is done I plan long haul trips with my laptop 'working' with the wanderlust in mind. It'll be great. Of course my twins will always need me.
Perhaps, no not perhaps, this IS my time.  Time to enjoy the life I should have had in my 20s but knew nothing except for work.  Time to make even more amazing new friends, to spend more time with the older friends who have stuck around so long while this Tazmanian devil does her thing.
Opening up to brand new experiences and doing my best to let happiness flow with ease.  

Aiming not to feel even a little bit heartbroken, yet knowing this is the way it will be.  Reflecting and changing the way I look at things.  Keeping that eye on the prize of Joy. As many days as is possible.

Just as the lyrics of a song which echoed in my ears this weekend in Paris, I hope I can be a part of their world.  Our unbreakable bond is truly magical.  With the best will in the world right now, A little piece of my heart is broken.  While I also just love that I have seen them bloom and grow.  

Time for me now?

Routine and direction - things are exciting and FRIGHTENING

You lovely readers!!!

You have put a great big BIG smile on my face! Seeing the stats as I logged in to write this post has given me even more positivity and confirmation than I already had.

Thank you

Thank you

Thank You

You're all so gorgeous.


As you have seen, yesterday my miracle twins started college.  Did you read about the anxiety I had with wondering if I would see them grow up?  It seemed so far away in the future yet now - Boom!

Well, they had a blast on their first day, making new friends,  bumping into old friends, becoming independent by finding locker keys (I warned Jasmine no photos of Troy Boulton inside!) and getting bus passes.

Then came the timetables and the inspiration for this post.

Timetables to rule the next few months by.  We are all going to be so busy.  My university timetable (our campuses are right next door to each other!) is packed and both the twins were aghast that they have days they are working 8.30 til 6.  Wow.  Now the thing is, I have a chance to get working during that time when they will be needing nothing from me except silence and a long distance love in my heart.  

Right as I realised things are going to get busy for us all, I realised I also had to organise home help, dog sitter and maybe a little more home help.  Along with easy cook dinners.  Oh yes.  It's going to be dinner, bath, EastEnders and bed I think!
However, bang on time (thank you universe) I met up with Stacey.  I love her.  She's my right hand girl, helper and PA.  

Ordering healthy dinners and pen poised we sat in our local restaurant after much hugging (it's been far too long since we saw each other).  We knew we needed to make this a productive meeting.  Of course there was some gossip (we are girls!) and lots of planning for the future.

This might not seem so much of a shock to you all but we have decided to focus on my nutrition business.  Haha.  Why do people roll their eyes?  I have worried about the politics of nutrition but I know what I know and I also am sure I can help people!

So what's the frightening bit?  The lack of down time.  The mess that my house is sure to become.  The constant tail chasing but I am confident it is all a great move in the right direction!



Routine must become my new best friend as I fill my diary with appointments and timetables.  

Are you feeling more of a sense of purpose and routine now the children have gone back to school?

With love, as always

Louise xoxo

My twins are off to college!

Yes that's right, it's super hard to believe but my lovely children are off to college.



It seems just yesterday I was crying over another negative pregnancy test (yet also seems a lifetime ago so how does that work?!) and now here I am proudly waving them off to college.



I'm super excited for them, truth be told.



As a single mum of two little babies I did spend a lot of time in a panic.  What if something happened to me?  What if they had no one to take care of them?  Not only did I want to be there every step of the way but they needed a parent to bring them up too!  Honestly, there is this long story where I used to sit in bed at night trying to take my pulse as I could feel my heart racing.

Three times I ended up in the A and E being tested for heart issues.  I now know this was purely anxiety.  I refuse to say 'only' as anxiety and 'only' do not belong in the same sentence.  If you are a sufferer you will know that!  Anyhow, it wasn't without leaving scars on my health but I'm generally ok.  Enough to be a reasonably good mum (I hope the twins would agree).



My time at college (I had 7 years of it during my lifetime) was so much more amazing than school.  I hated school.  Bullies and silly people made life miserable.  So I was pleased to get my teeth stuck into college.

My two have loved school but are super excited for college.



I'm excited for them too!



Much love



Louise xoxo

Photo shoot in London

GCSE time in our house.  This means many things!

"Mum I need to get this.  Mum can we go there."

Recently, to my delight, Nathan told me he needed photos in London.

St pancras

I love London.  I love Photography.  We took the tripod,  both DSLR cameras and set off on the train for the short journey into London.

Getting arty with sharp lines!

Eros, Picadilly Square

Man it was so so cold.  We had to stop and shoot, then walk fast to get the blood pumping to warm us up.  Stand and shoot again.  Yet it was fun.  I had to remember this was Nathans project and I must let him see the things and how to adjust the camera to get that shot.

Picadilly Circus

The Mall, leading to Buckingham Palace

While he was busy setting up the camera angles, settings and focus, I would take a similar shot just on my iPhone.  These I share with you here.  

Memorial

Typical Usher photograph

Buckingham Palace statues

If I am lucky enough I may be able to get my hands on those photos he has taken and share them with you here.  Just to show that the image in front of you is one thing, using the technology to make it even more beautiful is another.

I love the fact that we are all now budding photographers these days.  Prior to having our phones as cameras, pictures were becoming a thing of the past.

Do you love surfing and nosing everyones photos?

I sure do!

The sun catching the London Eye and Big ben

The Queens home at sunset

Typical london. Red phone box and Big ben

As the light began to fade, we saw the start of the Golden Hour.  A time where typically you see photographers setting up the best shots.

The London Eye and River Thames

Creepy or Fun?

My son taking his photos

Super proud of my children.  They turn 16 soon.  I simply cannot believe where that time has gone.  We are going to have a lot of fun celebrating their birthday. Lots and lots more photos to come for those ones.  Make sure you hop back to check those out!

Meanwhile sending much love as always

Louise xoxo

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Hey guys

Hope you are all well on this rainy August day.  The biggest day in the Wedding Calendar and it's raining.  Poor Brides.

Me? I'm enjoying writing here today in front of the french doors which are wide open.  The cool wet air drifting in refreshingly.  Lovely.

Anyhow,  today is a day of reading the blogs I love and get such pleasure from.  All the while I am giving you a call to action please:

I'd love you to follow my blog here and also my Vlog on youtube:

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* Hair and Beauty stuff
* Business stuff
* Life stuff (big subject)
* Wedding stuff (sign up to see the next blog!)
* UK visa applications (Just completed)
* Weight loss
* Infertility

Now considering my usual fee,  this is a giveaway! Yay, we like those don't we!

If, like me, you want to make the best from your life and aren't sure how....you can read my book on the Law of Attraction.  I KNOW this stuff works and I've just managed my biggest manifestation of all!

Again, follow here and I will tell all in my upcoming blogs.

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Please get in touch. I see loads of pageviews which is fantastic and I'd love to know what it is that you love the most.  Right now it seems to be the beauty stuff.  There are tons of gorgeous girlies doing this in braces.  My braces came off a few years ago so I wonder if I could offer something different.  Lifestyle advice is a favourite of mine.  But feel free to let me know

I'm off to write, write, write this bank holiday weekend as I really want to update you with my news!!

Much love

Louise x

Hello!!!! Is it me you're looking for?

I've missed you guys!

How ARE you?

Where have I been?  

Oh,  you know,  stuff......  been doing more business stuff.  Drumming up work,  making a living.  This blog might do that one day and nothing will make me happier,  meanwhile I will keep writing here for pleasure.

My update:

*Still no visa news.  My gorgoeus fiance and I are still patiently waiting to find out if we can be together soon.

*I've lost a bit of weight.  I've been asked to get involved with a weight loss group (used to do this before,  shall i blog about it?  Answers below) which means another bit of work which I love.  Obviously it motivated me to lose a couple of lbs which crept on as they do.

*Having a nice time this summer,  enjoying the weather.  Thinking of throwing mum a  birthday party but she's not well right now.

*Twins are having teenage sleep overs all the time right now.  Which is fine.  I'm fine.  No,  really,  I'm fine!

*Decided to make more desk time which will be more productive now I'm not needed in the same way for my twins.

What you all been up to?

Kids growing up - My twins

Long ago,  in a time which seems like yesterday,  I cradled my miracle IVF twins on their Christening day.

Can you imagine how proud I was on this day.  I never thought the day would come.  9 years of trying,  injections,  tests, operations and the like finally brought me my gorgeous twins.

A girl and a boy.

JACKPOT!

Feeling blessed every step of the way,  I can say hand on heart I'm one lucky mother.  They are a really sweet pair of children.  Today though,  they are growing up.  So much so that the time I booked off to spend with them on these summer holidays I'm finding myself ever so slightly redundant.  Most mums would scream: "Yesssss.... more coffee shop time!"

Leaving me in a place of, "What now?" Can be a little overwhelming.  My twins very much still need me so I can't go far and it's certainly not time to tour the country with work as I did pre-twins.  So here I am thinking,  "I need more right now."  

Wondering what that is,  I took a phone call from one of my best friends in the world,  Lulu.  She's wise.  Her response after I told her all my thoughts and how I'm loving writing more but still going with my business she said,
"My answer when you have several balls in the air is keep them in the air until such a time as you begin to drop one,  cos that's the time it isn't working."
Great point.  So here I am,  being a bit of a mum,  a salon consultant, writer and blogger.  Does writer and blogger come in as one?

Sad but cute thing:  My twins are very aware of me being alone until I finally greet Mo at the airport.  They often check on me to see I'm ok.  They are cute.  Bless them.  We will always be close and I know that will never change.  Leaving them to spread their wings is one of the hardest part of parenting.

Maybe it's time for some more babies.....

How DO I begin writing each day?

've been asked a brilliant and interesting question - "How do you center yourself and get started each day as I seem to waste the first 10-15 minutes figuring out what to say?"

I started thinking over this answer and most likely, like many of you,  I started by thinking of a text book answer.

To be totally upfront and honest,  I was going to say:

Try placing your feet both flat on the floor.

Imagine the roots of a tree pulling you into the ground,  centering you and grounding you.

See with your inner eye a beam of golden light going through the top of your head right through your body.

Take a deep breath in and slowly release through your mouth.

Click your fingers and place them on the keyboard and see what comes.

Now: Of course you can use this technique!

For me,  I tend to find I always have loads to say and it just seems to flow.  

Can I be really honest with you? I, like many of my writer friends I know just seem to sit and feel the flow and just type.  Often not needing to make too many editorial changes.  When I read back over my writing it sounds like a different person than me.  As if something magic happens.  This shows that within our own subconsious mind there is for sure something going on that is not in our consious mind.  I know this of me which is honestly why I feel when I write something down,  the reader gets better value out of me than if it's not written.

Do you find this as a writer?  When you blog,  magic happens?

I'm so lucky with my Salon Managers who ask me to manage and write their blogs for them,  it is packed full of information but also with a feeling and a flow full of information! This is a role I LOVE and clients of the salons love it too,  feeling connected as part of a community.

I'm interested to know,  what style do you write in?  What gets you going?  Do you use someone else? 

Of course,  there's always the old favourite,  intending it through the law of attraction.

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Have an awesome day 

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